Marriage is an exciting prospect for couples in love, but it can also seem overwhelming and intimidating. Read the steps below to prepare yourself to propose, plan a ceremony, and get married.

Proposing and Planning

Method 1

Plan ahead to pop the question. Your (hopefully) spouse-to-be should be surprised, delighted, and / or put a bit off-balance by your proposition. It is the sort of romantic moment most people live for, so be sure to get it right by planning it out early. Think about the appropriate place, time, and words to say. Try to think of things your lover particularly enjoys – favorite restaurants, activities, and / or music – but for whatever reason does not get to indulge in very often. Use these as background elements to set up a truly memorable proposition to marry.

  • Short, simple words carry a lot more power than big, fancy words. If you want to make a great impact with what you say, plan to speak plainly and from the heart.

Purchase an engagement ring. Since you are doing the asking, it is your responsibility to have the engagement ring picked out ahead of time. Think about what your lover likes and dislikes. If there is jewelry for you to examine, do so and avoid gems and colors that make few or no appearances in your partner’s current collection.

  • Feel free to specifically ask your partner about engagement rings, but be sure to do it well in advance of when you actually plan to buy the ring, so he or she will have forgotten all about it.
  • Do not feel as though you have to spend an exorbitant amount of money on an engagement ring. The more important thing is what the ring symbolizes. Besides, the wedding itself is likely to set you back plenty on its own.

Ask your lover to marry you. With the ring stowed safely away, begin your day or night out together. Be on your best behavior and keep things happy and bright. When the time comes, drop to one knee in front of your partner, pull out your ring, and say your piece. With any luck, you will get a resounding “yes!”.

  • Propose in public, if you can help it at all. Having witnesses around proves to your lover that you are ready to get married no matter who knows it and no matter what they might think. The people around you will love the show, too.

Begin to plan the wedding. Once the night is through and you are successfully engaged to be married, waste no time in laying out plans for the ceremony and honeymoon. Even a small civil ceremony needs a time and a place; most people will also want a more formal ceremony, whether religious or civil, which requires all kinds of event planning skills and plenty of money. Do not forget to register with a wedding gift registry, if you would like people to bring wedding gifts.

  • Plan the wedding with your lover. Include parents and legal guardians as well. More often than not, they will be glad to help plan and defray the cost of the event.

Simple Ceremony

Method 2

 Pick a time and place. As a general rule of thumb, do not get married immediately after the engagement is announced. Instead, enjoy being engaged for a little while. With any luck, it is the only time you will ever be engaged in your entire life. Once you can both agree on a day, find a justice of the peace, notary public, or other legally-empowered person to perform your marriage. Call ahead and set up an appointment; it will give him or her something pleasant to look forward to that day.

Be prepared. Arrive to the site of your ceremony early, and bring at least one witness along. Dress up or not as you like it: Only the two of you, the master of the ceremony, and your witness(es) will be there to see.

Tie the knot. Follow the lead of the official and exchange vows. Kiss your spouse when you are done! You can choose to get a marriage license the same day you get married, in most cases; fees vary by state, but are not usually very expensive. The license gives you legal proof of your marriage for tax and other purposes. Once you have it, you do not need to renew it.

Elaborate Ceremony

Method 3

Choose a venue. Most religious or semi-religious people will probably want some kind of wedding in a church, but if you and your partner choose a civil ceremony, that does not mean you do not have options. Aside from chapels and meeting halls available to rent, city parks, family estates, and even cruise ships may be viable options. People have even gotten married while skydiving. Discuss costs and personal values with your lover and settle on a venue that suits both of you.

Choose a theme. For people who strictly adhere to one of the older churches, the details of the ceremony will more or less follow tradition; for everyone else, it is time to pick and choose. Remember to keep more than your likes and dislikes in mind. This is a serious and life-altering event; plan it so that it reflects your deeply held values and beliefs as well. That is not to say you cannot have fun picking a fanciful theme, but do not forget the momentous nature of the day.

  • Weddings based on ancestral culture can be fun, especially if either both parties share a similar background, or both parties come from very different backgrounds but are willing to compromise. Feel free to get a bit theatrical, especially if you do not want to do everything according to actual ancestral wedding traditions: Matching torcs and a silk-clad harpist are perfectly appropriate for a Celt-Irish themed wedding, for example.
  • Weddings based on shared interests and style can be very flashy and enjoyable for all involved, as they provide easy ways to take standard traditions and twist them around a little bit for a clever new take. The main thing to be aware of is cost: A Gothic wedding and a video game-themed wedding might seem like diametric opposites, but both are likely to cost more than a plain ceremony.

Hire help. This does not necessarily have to be a professional, such as an event planner, but it helps, if you can afford it. Otherwise, ask around among friends and relatives to find people who can assist in planning things like seating arrangements and help put up garlands, streamers, tables, and other elements right before the wedding. For more time-consuming or complex tasks, offer to pay a little bit.

  • Trust your helpers. If there is a question or problem, they will come to you. Instead of hovering, why not find something else to work on or help out with?
Set up as early as possible. Normally, you will not be able to set things up for your wedding until the day arrives, but that does not mean you cannot be up before dawn and working on it. In some cases, you can begin to prepare a day or even a few days beforehand. If you are fortunate enough to have this option, take it: Setting up a wedding is exhausting work.

Go with the flow. Once the ceremony starts and the wedding is on, you and your soon-to-be spouse are the center of attention, not only for everyone attending but even for anyone who happens to pass by (as in an outdoor wedding) and notice what is going on. This is not the time to nitpick or berate anybody nor is it the time to get upset when something is less than perfect. Instead, set a shining example to everyone around you. Be forgiving of problems or complications that arise. Keep your composure with a smile, no matter what, both during the ceremony and at the reception. Your parents and friends will be impressed and remember the event fondly.